"Let our hearts be stretched out in compassion toward others, for everyone is walking his or her own difficult path.”
Dieter F. Uchtdorf
Let's make this a bit client centric... Everyone of your clients is navigating their own unique set of challenges, which may not always be visible. It's up to you to find out.
Recognizing this fosters a sense of connection and understanding. I'd encourage you to approach your clients with kindness rather than judgment.
Compassion, it's a powerful force that can transform your relationships.
The National Library of Medicine defines compassion as, "An emotional response to another’s struggles that involves an authentic desire to help."
As you allow that definition to simmer for a bit, I ask you to reflect upon your clients and your future clients... Are you developing an authentic desire to help?
By stretching and opening your hearts toward your clients, you not only uplift them but also enrich the relationship with deeper connections and understanding.
Embracing this mindset leads to a more compassionate relationship where your clients feel seen and supported.
Whether you're a business owner, CEO, President, sales leader or a sales professional, your clients and how well you connect with them will determine your long-term sustainability, revenue and profits.
Your clients are undeniably one of the most precious assets you have.
Without clients would you exist in sales?
The more you understand that deep meaningful and authentic relationships with your client's matter, the more successful you will become.
Your first mirror moment:
- Are you personally engaging with your clients?
- Are you authentically investing in building meaningful relationships?
- Are you showing that you care?
If you answered 'yes' to any of these, I'd encourage you to describe the experience. If you answered 'no' to any of these, I'd encourage you to deeply reflect on what the outcome could be by doing so.
CONNECTION AND COMPASSION
"We're living in miraculous times where connections are made at the blink of an eye, the tap of a thumb, and the click of a mouse. We can never replace human interaction, but these simple actions can be powerful and meaningful to those we connect with."
Christy Turlington
How well are you connecting with your clients?
The business world is riddled with technology allowing us to bridge conversations, fuel conversations and sorry to say, in some instances, replace human conversations.
While technology facilitates connections, it cannot fully replicate the nuances of face-to-face interaction. Non-verbal cues such as body language, tone of voice, and physical presence, are all essential components of meaningful communication that only becomes lost in digital exchanges.
Regardless of the medium by which communication occurs, the essence of conversation lies in active listening, respect for someone's viewpoints, and a willingness to engage in open and honest dialogue.
Your second mirror moment:
- Are you engaging in open and honest communication with your clients?
I believe that conversations are the lifeblood to connecting with your clients. Without meaningful conversations, it becomes monumentally difficult to truly connect.
What saddens me, what concerns me and what I find inexcusable, is how few in sales are truly connecting to their clients with any kind of meaning. I am also pointing the finger to all the executives and senior leaders who have fostered the environment by modeling the behavior by not deeply connecting with their team.
I believe heartfelt professionals are driven by a mission to make the business world better and to help others. This all starts with compassion and connection.
"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive."
Dali Lama
Love and compassion are necessities for humanity's survival. They enrich our lives, foster stronger relationships, and create supportive communities that thrive on mutual respect and understanding.
What kind of communities are you creating with your clients?
By actively cultivating these qualities within yourself and promoting them in your interactions with your clients, you then start to foster true connection.
Here are three simple things to do daily:
- Acts of Kindness: Volunteer at one of your clients' favorite charities. I flat-out guarantee this will significantly impact the relationship while enhancing your own sense of fulfillment.
- Mindfulness: Practicing mindfulness around this and how this makes you feel. This alone fosters a compassionate mindset.
- Self-compassion: Recognize the importance of being kind to yourself. Self-love allows you to extend compassion to your clients.
My question to everyone in sales... Why can't we bring this to our client relationships? I sincerely believe this would put you in a better place with your clients.
Compassionate selling is the call for changing times within the business community.
The times, they're a changing. I am to inform all of you... Soft skills yield hard dollars.
COMPASSION AND CONNECTION UNLOCKS THE RELATIONAL DOOR
"Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind."
1 Peter 3:8
Just for a moment, imagine bringing a tender heart to your clients. Yes, this requires massive amounts of vulnerability. In doing so, this will allow you to connect authentically with your clients.
Now, with that tender heart, take compassionate action by responding to your clients' needs with care and understanding.
When I ask salespeople, sales leaders, executives, and presidents of a companies, if their client relationships matter - I always hear, a resounding, unanimous, and undeniable YES, THEY DO... then my question to all of you... What are you doing to build, nurture and grow the relationship if your client relationships matter?
Your third mirror moment:
- What would happen if you brought compassion to your client relationships? How would this make them feel?
- Would this allow you to connect with more meaning and with more substance?
- Would this create incremental revenue, referrals and sustainability? If so, how would this make you feel?
Connection unlocks the relational door; compassion allows you to walk through the relational door.
Dali Lama once said,
"I think technology really increased human ability. But technology cannot produce compassion."
Compassion is a deeply rooted human emotion. Compassion allows you to empathize with others' experiences. Now, think about your clients.
Compassion, technology cannot replicate it.
While technology can analyze data and predict outcomes, it lacks the emotional intelligence necessary for understanding complex human emotions and responding with genuine care.
Your fourth mirror moment:
- Are you risking disconnection from your clients by over-relying on technology?
Digital communication can sometimes lead to shallow interactions, where the depth of human connection is lost. Online exchanges may lack the warmth and nuance of face-to-face conversations. Now, think about how often your sole means of communication with your clients is digital.
An over-reliance on technology decreases empathy. I believe when this happens one becomes a bit desensitized to their clients and their business struggles.
When client interactions occur through screens, it may be easier to overlook the emotional weight behind their words.
UNLOCK YOUR SALES GROWTH, CONNECT WITH YOUR CLIENTS WITH COMPASSION.
I believe compassionate and heartfelt salespeople seek to influence, not take advantage of their clients. They encourage. They lead with hope. They guide, acknowledge and support their clients. They smash together their efforts, skills, talents, insights, passion, enthusiasm and commitment to work because they care.
Compassion and connectivity become jet fuel for building meaningful client relationships.
Stronger relationships, more profitable sales results.
Compassionate selling is foundational in trust building. When your clients feel understood, they're more likely to engage and collaborate more positively with you.
Compassionate selling creates long-term sustainability and loyalty. All this creates is profitable repeat business and referrals.
Compassionate salespeople take the time to understand their clients' goals and challenges, allowing them to offer tailored solutions rather than generic pitches.
Compassionate selling creates meaningful relationships rather than just close one-time deals and transactional based relationships.
Compassionate selling creates sustainability for salespeople, as these clients continue to do business with salespeople they can trust.
Compassionate selling shifts the focus from short-term gains to building lasting, mutually beneficial client relationships.
This not only leads to sustained business growth but also creates a positive environment where you and your clients thrive.
Your success is not just about closing more deals, where you sit on the sales totem pole, or the size of your last commission check; it's about how well you connect and have sincere compassion for your clients.
- You must care intensely about your clients.
- You must have compassion for your clients.
- You must connect with meaning with your clients.
When you with lead with empathy, compassion and vulnerability, you erode the negative perception caused by all the empty suits.
Jill Schulman, MAPP, USMC Veteran, Speaker, Consultant is the Founder & Principal of Breakthrough Leadership Group and a passionate leadership development consultant specializing in programs that drive performance. A former Marine Corps officer, Jill began her career in sales management and honed her leadership skills over a decade in the field. Today, she’s dedicated to helping others cultivate their own leadership abilities. Known for translating leadership theory into actionable strategies, Jill’s diverse background in the military, corporate world, and volunteer organizations makes her a sought-after speaker, coach, and trainer.
SHOW SUMMARY
In this episode of the Selling From the Heart podcast, Darrell Amy, AVG, CEPA and I sit down with Jill Schulman, founder of Breakthrough Leadership Group, to discuss the science of bravery in sales. Drawing from her experiences in sales leadership and positive psychology, Jill emphasizes the importance of cultivating a brave mindset, taking proactive actions, and building meaningful connections. She encourages sales professionals to embrace discomfort, develop courage incrementally, and foster trust through genuine relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Bravery is Cultivated: Bravery can be developed over time with consistent, intentional acts of courage.
Mindset Matters: A growth mindset and positive outlook are essential for success in sales.
Action is Key: Taking brave, proactive steps is crucial for personal and professional growth.
Brave Connections: Building relationships with key influencers can accelerate success in sales.
Regret Minimization: Acting bravely now prevents the regret of missed opportunities later.
QUOTES TO REMEMBER
"It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, but because we do not dare things that are difficult." — Jill Schulman
"Bravery is about doing the right thing, even when it's hard." — Jill Schulman
"Sometimes we have to step into discomfort to truly grow." — Jill Schulman
"Trust is the currency of sales." — Larry Levine
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